Tuesday, September 8, 2009

The tragedy of a sweet friend...

I wanted to put this on here quickly, because it's just been found out.

A very lovely, very sweet friend of mine today found out at her very last prenatal appointment that there was no longer a heartbeat inside her son. I am just crumpled for her: totally heartbroken. She is only twenty years old and such a precious young lady: I'm so utterly fond of her - she was very sweet and gentle after Josie died and this is another example of how much unexpected randomness life can throw at you.

I'm never one to say "life sucks" because it doesn't: but sometimes, the events in life can be very hard; there are deep, dark holes that we all fall in. I just of course, wish it hadn't happened to her - I wish it didn't have to happen, but it does happen and it will continue to happen to a proportion of us.

She has been sent home for the night and will be induced in the morning. I am going to see her and her little boy, I hope, as soon as I can.

Please, anyone who reads this, send their most loving thoughts and their most healing vibes to southern Minnesota this evening, because when Josie died, I could feel the various prayers and thoughts coming from people every day like a warm blanket over both H and myself as we lay in bed. She will need this from as many people as possible tonight and for many nights to come...

Much love to you all...

9 comments:

~M said...

Thoughts and prayers her way. She is lucky, at a time like this, to have someone close to her who really understands what she's going through. I'm so very sorry for your friend.

Shannon Ryan said...

oh no Jay... she is so very lucky to have you by her side during this horrible time in her life. I'm so deeply sorry. :( I wish no one else ever had to go through this.

Rachele "MommaSomeday" said...

I'm so sorry to hear this. I'll be sending warm thoughts her way, and yours. *hugs*

Fireflyforever said...

I am so very, very sorry to hear about your friend's son. I'm glad that you are able to be there for her.

Hoping that the birth of her son is as gentle as it can be under such sad circumstances.

Jay said...

It looks like she will be able to receive visitors tomorrow. I think she's being induced at the moment - the hospital told me they couldn't release any information, but to call back tomorrow, so I'll be doing that. I really just want to give her a giant hug...

whitney said...

there are two white candles lit in my window here in Seattle tonight...a short and a tall...flames burning bright.. and everytime I pass them there's a prayer whispered from one mother to another.

Shelley and Don said...

I am so sorry for her loss :( My thoughts and prayers are being sent up.
Im a christian and I have a lot of faith - but things like this I just have such a hard time with. It's so incredibly and undeniably unfair.

Emerging Butterfly said...

Being of the opinion that NOONE should have to go through this...I am heartbroken for your friend, and for all the dear mamas out there with tears in their hearts. Bless you...I am so sorry....you are sadly not alone. So sorry for your loss. Thank you Jay Jay for being there for her. Thank you.

forwardtumble said...

HI Jay

I only read your post today. I am so very, very sad and sorry to read this terrible news. My heart goes out to your friend. I wish there was a way to make this unhappen. It's just C***.

Big hug to you, too.

xx Ines